Today, I will talk about how important it is to know how to say "no"—without feeling guilty. Sometimes we think that we always have to please others, that we have to be friendly, accessible, and liked by everyone. But life teaches us that this is impossible and, in fact, unhealthy.
The art of saying "no" is not something we learn overnight. It is a lesson that comes through experience, through moments when we have lost ourselves, when we have given too much and then felt exhausted, empty, or neglected. Over the years, I have come to realize that "no" is not just a word, but a gift – a gift to myself. When I say no, it doesn't mean I'm selfish, it means I'm protecting my space, my time, and my energy.
A big part of this life lesson is also realizing that those who stay when I say no truly appreciate me. Those who leave also show who is really by my side. There is nothing wrong with not being liked by someone – the important thing is to be honest with ourselves. When we learn to say no without feeling guilty, life falls into a natural rhythm. We become more present, more peaceful, and more connected to what we truly feel and need.
Saying no also means accepting that we cannot always be available to everyone. Sometimes our heart wants to please, the fear of disappointment or rejection kicks in, but the truth is that our inner well-being is more important than external opinions. Every time we allow ourselves to say no calmly, our self-confidence grows. Our power to set boundaries, to love ourselves, and to follow our own rhythm, not the rhythm of others, grows.
For me, learning to say no is a process that has led to inner peace. I have found that life does not stop when I say no. On the contrary, a different dynamic begins, bringing people and situations that are truly in tune with me. It becomes clearer who is with me out of genuine interest and who is only there for convenience or habit.
Saying no is not the end of the world. It is the beginning of freedom, the beginning of not having to pretend, of not having to play all the roles that the world expects of us. It is a lesson in kindness to oneself. Every "no" spoken with love for oneself is a step towards peace, integrity, and the feeling that it is okay to be ourselves—completely ourselves—even if others do not understand or accept it.
Hugs,
Eva
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